Sunday
I've been on eharmony now for a couple of months. The first time was a one month trial that was pretty exciting. It resulted in a failed relationship but was good enough to convince me to try it again. It does seem though that my experience changes the longer I spend on this site.
Perhaps its the warmer weather, my busier work schedule...or the fact that I've reconnected with an old flame (more on that later), but the online life is lacking some lustre these days. I often take days to check my new matches where I used to check almost every day. None of the matches from earlier are even worth mentioning at this point. The several I've been in "open communication" with got boring to me or I've gotten boring to them and we've stopped exchanging messages.
With the exception of *Detroit. He and I are supposed to have a second date sometime soon, he's going to call me this week. He was really sweet and I enjoyed talking to him so I'm sure we'll have a good time but I doubt there's enough chemistry to take this too much further.
*Cartagena hasn't responded to my email. It's been a few weeks so I decided to go outside my comfort zone and write him another email seeing if we should start over. That was on Friday so I'll keep you posted if I hear from him.
I also went outside my normal role and fast tracked *Memphis because his profile says that's what he prefers. No word from him either. It appears that even in the online world men prefer to do the chasing and I can come off as too aggressive. It's going to take a particular guy to keep up with me it seems and I haven't seen him on here yet!
In fairness to the site and as I mentioned earlier, I've reconnected with an ex of mine. There's just no way the online world can compete with real life chemistry. Not for me anyway. I'd probably have written a few of the eharmony guys back if it weren't for the excitement of seeing *Naples. Fireworks literally when off when we saw each other!!! It's been a couple of years since we've seen each other. He was too young then and we were at different places in our lives. He's definitely grown up some and I always did like him so who knows maybe we've reconnected because we're ready now? We've had one date since that night. A wonderful date. I don't know that there's any more future or possibility with *Naples than with any of the guys online but it's just so much more enticing to pursue someone I can see, talk to and touch. But my fear with *Naples is that the tables have turned and this time it will be me chasing him and him walking away from me. But I still think he'll be around for a bit. Wish me luck!
I also met someone this weekend that I hope to see again. *Glasgow is a friend of a friend I've never been introduced to before. Who knew? Just when you think you've exhausted all the possible friend hook ups you're happily proved wrong. There are some things that make me think this won't go anywhere - not the least of which is that I think *Glasgow might be out of my league! He's pretty spectacular. That and the fact that our mutual friend has been telling me he's in love with me for the past five years and spent most of the night with us telling *Glasgow to stay away from me. It didn't work. I hope it continues to not work but I'll have to keep you posted on that too!
Offline, online, any-kind-of-line...I feel good about my romantic prospects for the summer!
Tally for Day 56...
New matches worth mentioning: 0
Second Eharmony Dates Pending: 1
Ex-BF Dates Pending: 1!
New Guys Met Offline: 1
P.S. Check out my new column derived from this blog on http://www.shedoesthecity.com/
I've been on eharmony now for a couple of months. The first time was a one month trial that was pretty exciting. It resulted in a failed relationship but was good enough to convince me to try it again. It does seem though that my experience changes the longer I spend on this site.
Perhaps its the warmer weather, my busier work schedule...or the fact that I've reconnected with an old flame (more on that later), but the online life is lacking some lustre these days. I often take days to check my new matches where I used to check almost every day. None of the matches from earlier are even worth mentioning at this point. The several I've been in "open communication" with got boring to me or I've gotten boring to them and we've stopped exchanging messages.
With the exception of *Detroit. He and I are supposed to have a second date sometime soon, he's going to call me this week. He was really sweet and I enjoyed talking to him so I'm sure we'll have a good time but I doubt there's enough chemistry to take this too much further.
*Cartagena hasn't responded to my email. It's been a few weeks so I decided to go outside my comfort zone and write him another email seeing if we should start over. That was on Friday so I'll keep you posted if I hear from him.
I also went outside my normal role and fast tracked *Memphis because his profile says that's what he prefers. No word from him either. It appears that even in the online world men prefer to do the chasing and I can come off as too aggressive. It's going to take a particular guy to keep up with me it seems and I haven't seen him on here yet!
In fairness to the site and as I mentioned earlier, I've reconnected with an ex of mine. There's just no way the online world can compete with real life chemistry. Not for me anyway. I'd probably have written a few of the eharmony guys back if it weren't for the excitement of seeing *Naples. Fireworks literally when off when we saw each other!!! It's been a couple of years since we've seen each other. He was too young then and we were at different places in our lives. He's definitely grown up some and I always did like him so who knows maybe we've reconnected because we're ready now? We've had one date since that night. A wonderful date. I don't know that there's any more future or possibility with *Naples than with any of the guys online but it's just so much more enticing to pursue someone I can see, talk to and touch. But my fear with *Naples is that the tables have turned and this time it will be me chasing him and him walking away from me. But I still think he'll be around for a bit. Wish me luck!
I also met someone this weekend that I hope to see again. *Glasgow is a friend of a friend I've never been introduced to before. Who knew? Just when you think you've exhausted all the possible friend hook ups you're happily proved wrong. There are some things that make me think this won't go anywhere - not the least of which is that I think *Glasgow might be out of my league! He's pretty spectacular. That and the fact that our mutual friend has been telling me he's in love with me for the past five years and spent most of the night with us telling *Glasgow to stay away from me. It didn't work. I hope it continues to not work but I'll have to keep you posted on that too!
Offline, online, any-kind-of-line...I feel good about my romantic prospects for the summer!
Tally for Day 56...
New matches worth mentioning: 0
Second Eharmony Dates Pending: 1
Ex-BF Dates Pending: 1!
New Guys Met Offline: 1
P.S. Check out my new column derived from this blog on http://www.shedoesthecity.com/
